Moral Inversion Flipped the Skanky Script

It’s an old story. He’s working hard to support a young family. She gets bored, sleeps around, gets caught, cries a sob story. Everybody believes her against her husband. She gets the kid and the house.

But that was before full moral inversion was achieved!

I was married to a ‘wife guy’ for 10 years. He cheated on me, so I ended it.

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By Rebecca Tidy, 4 October 2022

I spent 14 years in a relationship with the kind of man who wrote “devoted husband” on his Twitter bio. Everyone said this guy adored and cherished me. He even waited at home in London, posting lovesick Facebook statuses, while I traveled the world in my early 20s.

“There aren’t many men who’d do that,” my mother admonished me.

HE was the best wife a woman could hope for… but no, his husband was too busy being a high-powered executive to appreciate him! It’s HER fault her wife cheated!

“She doesn’t appreciate how lucky she’s got it,” another woman disapprovingly told him.

This “devoted husband” cheated on me, so I ended things. Yet I was seen as the bad person for upsetting a nice man who “made a silly mistake.”

Can’t… stop… ROFLMAO…

My sister let him move into her place for three months, then my parents loaned him an apartment on their farm. Just over a year later, my neighbors still look at me in disgust for tearing apart our “happy” family.

He wouldn’t have cheated if she’d stayed home and made time for him!

Working long hours? You’ve got no time for him.

At the gym? You’re making him insecure.

HAHAHAAA! Suck it suck it suck it

My ex-husband had actually crafted a strong personal brand by flooding everyone’s timelines with content about his undying love for me. He was a textbook “wife guy.”

But social media isn’t an accurate portrayal of anyone’s daily lives or relationships. The sickly sweet graduation photos and effusive praise for my achievements failed to convey that he was rarely at home.

“Wife” played on social media while “husband” was away.

The oh-so-predictable selfies of him in blue scrubs, while I was being sliced open to deliver our baby, brought him effusive praise from online observers. Yet the fact he was at a Christmas party when I came home from the hospital with our newborn slipped by unnoticed.

What was it like, “husband”? Watching your “wife” getting to be the center of attention while you got cut open between business trips?

I believe that my ex-husband had a deep desire to be seen as a selfless hero: He thrived on recognition and congratulatory responses to his posts. But as any reader of childhood fairy tales knows: Where there’s a hero, there’s always a villain. The “heroic” cops have their “villainous” robbers, while the wife guy has, well, his wife.

Uh-uh, flat tits. “Wife guy” has his husband. Feel the burn of half a century’s disrespect!

My ex basked in the halo effect of “being a devoted husband,” a label that all too frequently renders almost any negative characteristic void. Thanks to his public displays of emotion and “vulnerability,” people overlooked his flirting, excessive partying, and questionable ways.

Pussy pass!

They didn’t know that he rarely changed a diaper, but he was always sure to share a selfie on the rare occasion he did. In contrast, critics seemed all too keen to highlight my “faults” in the face of his apparent devotion.

“She rarely cleaned my house but demanded a medal when she did.”

We live in a society that tells women to be grateful for the smallest amount of male attention and assistance — from offering empty compliments to taking out the trash. The bar for men is set so low that even finding your wife attractive is deemed worthy of congratulations.

Robbie Tripp, one of the first internet “wife guys,” was lauded for a cringe-inducing Instagram post about loving his wife’s “curvy” body. Why does society celebrate a dude who talks about being sexually attracted to his wife as if it makes him some kind of hero?

I will answer as best I can without my emesis tray: WE. GAVE. YOU. WOMEN. EVERYTHING. YOU. EVER. WANTED. Here’s your male privilege, Barbie, now be a good boy and keep the world spinning while I post selfies on Twitter about painting my toenails.

There’s no female equivalent of a wife guy — you don’t hear the term “husband chick.” That’s because society expects women to be devoted to their husbands automatically and without question.

If only. Ohhh, if only.

But he still didn’t get the kid and the house in the divorce because… because…

Covid Means I Can’t See My Partner In Prison. It’s Been Torture

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By Rebecca Tidy, 2 December 2020

[Note: Rebecca Tidy is a freelance journalist specialising in drugs, prisons and policing. She also works part-time as a research fellow at the University of Exeter, where she obtained a PhD in Political Science.]

Wife Guy must have been QUITE the research project.

England may be finishing its second national lockdown, but for many families like mine, the first lockdown never really ended. That’s because my partner, Chris, is awaiting trial – on drug importation charges – in Guernsey prison, and we haven’t been allowed to see him since March.

The past seven months have been an extremely stressful and emotional time, made worse by the fact that Chris’ trial has been delayed to March 2021 due to coronavirus. He’s been detained since November 2019, and it’s almost unheard of for someone to be on remand this long. According to Parliament, the average remand time in 2016 was just 39 days.

The remand time for international drug trafficking probably exceeds the average.

This extended wait for trial has been torture. It’s caused arguments, sleepless nights and untold anxieties. Chris is autistic, and his symptoms have become noticeably worse, from his inability to cope with noises to his fear of sudden changes. I’m convinced the emotional impact of these problems would be eased if we could see one another face-to-face.

They say that crazy women give the best sex. Does that apply to Wife Guys?

I’m a single parent, but I don’t qualify for the government self-employment grant or Universal Credit. This means I’ve had to work harder to pay the bills, but it has perhaps been a blessing in disguise. The lengthy hours mean I have less time to dwell on the lack of face-to-face contact, or focus on just how much I long for a hug, or Chris’ familiar smell.

At least her wife has the excuse of doing hard time. What’s the excuse of mens’ wives for their emotional neglect?

I’ve always used weightlifting as a coping mechanism when things get stressful – but obviously the gyms have been closed for much of the last seven months. So instead I’ve simply focused my efforts on work and the kids, while trying my best to support Chris emotionally. I try not to compare my personal situation to anyone else’s, as I get irritated when people complain about trivial things like not being able to go to the pub.

Yep, she’s fully masculinized, except for the whole birthing-person thing. And if he was any more female, he’d be hearing voices in his head…

But, of course, it’s been much more difficult for Chris to distract himself. There’s little to do in a prison cell. He was moved into isolation, after experiencing an autism-related meltdown when officers unexpectedly tried to move him to a different wing.

Prisons aren’t supposed to punish inmates for displaying protected characteristics of their disability, whether it’s autism, schizophrenia or a broken leg. But the prison service claims that isolation is an administrative measure, and not a punishment.

Psychos don’t go in general population. Also, one of those is not like the others.

Crucially, there needs to be a clear acknowledgement of the trauma experienced by inmates during the pandemic, as well as provision of adequate mental health and pastoral support.

Otherwise, there will be an entire generation of inmates for whom prison will have held no restorative value. They won’t have attended rehabilitative courses, participated in therapy or maintained adequate family ties. And to compound this, they certainly won’t have trust in society.

And as we all know, housewives need LOTS of therapy in order to maintain adequate family ties. Otherwise, wifey will go skanking the moment she’s out of prison… which is exactly what Chris apparently did. Which means, it really isn’t his fault that he’s a bad wife. Not when his husband was so emotionally unavailable!

Burn, Becky, burn!